💕LOVE LEADERS💕 Sitting across from a client the other day, I ask them to do something that feels… well, impossible: “Forget your problems for a moment,” “I know they’re heavy. I know they’ve defined your days and stolen your nights. But just for now—can you put a pin in them?” Their eyes dart around the room like they are trying to find an exit. I see the panic settle behind their ribs. The disbelief that it could be so simple. The quiet war between wanting to move forward and staying loyal...
about 18 hours ago • 2 min read
💕LOVE LEADERS💕 I still remember where I was standing when I saw the words. “Step one: Radical Honesty.” My stomach dropped. Everything in me went cold. And before I could stop it, I whispered out loud: “OH F$#K.” We had just signed up for a sexual mastery and relationship recovery program — my wife’s idea. This was 3 years ago. After our first miscarriage. After we lost something deeper: the feeling that we were still us. She wanted to feel close again. I said yes because it seemed like the...
6 days ago • 2 min read
đź’•LOVE LEADERSđź’• The relationship ended. But you are still hoping that maybe... maybe they come back and say "let's try again". You are holding onto an image that is long gone (or maybe one that has never existed in the first place). You struggle with concentrating. In the work. With your friends. Everywhere you go, you can't shake the sense of loss. Sounds familiar? I've been there too. 3 years ago, when my wife said: "I think we should take a break"... and she didn't mean from the...
13 days ago • 2 min read
💕LOVE LEADERS💕 Meet Luke. A person who is, as I'm writing this, taking one of the 3 spots for my 6-week 1:1 Secure Love Reset™. Meaning: There are 2 spots available and 2 days to go (the door is closing on Monday the 19th). Why he? Because he's got what you (probably) don't. Here's what I mean: He's got deep awareness into his emotional states (emotional intelligence). But that's not what I mean. He's got clear direction about what he wants (goals) and already knows how to get there...
16 days ago • 2 min read
đź’•LOVE LEADERSđź’• I love my wife. I don't need any reason for it. But there would be plenty. One of them? She challenges my assumptions as they start to form. So that I can reconsider what I'm thinking and feeling and decide: to drop it as an idea and choose to think and feel something else (we talked this on the Masterclass #2 Emotional Fitness on Thursday) or to hold onto it. Recent example? You see, a month ago I made a decision - to start going to the gym every day. Here's what I do: Wake up...
23 days ago • 3 min read
đź’•LOVE LEADERSđź’• Yesterday, my newborn son Martin celebrated 3 months! He clearly overdid it with "the festivities", as you can see below: the future Love Leaderđź’• What also happened? I hosted the 1st Workshop in D.E.S.I.R.E. series. It was phenomenal! And I'm not the only one who thinks so: Rachel's message after watching the Masterclass #1 recording Okon's emails before and after speak for themselves. (I appreciate you, dear friend!) I felt really good when we wrapped up yesterday. Amazing,...
27 days ago • 2 min read
LOVE LEADERS Jim Rohn, a personal development expert once famously said: "I used to follow the old "I take care of you if you take care of me" motto, but I changed it. Now I go with: "I'll take care of me for you - if you take care of you for me"." The best thing you can do for any relationship, be it a business relationship, friendship, or, in our case, the romantic relationship - is to take care of yourself. If you make yourself: 10-times more loving, 10-times more aware, 10-times more...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
LOVE LEADERS Matus Hanidziar Hey Reader, I’ve got something exciting in the works, and I could really use your help. I’m putting together a live masterclass series called: How to Attract (and Keep) the Secure Love You Deserve—Without Chasing, Abandoning Yourself, or Needing Therapy. I'm very excited about it... But before I finalize everything, I want to make sure I cover exactly what you need to hear. So, I’ve got a favor to ask: Could you share your #1 question about attracting the secure...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
LOVE LEADERS Matus Hanidziar Years of pain dissolved in a single moment. Not because I worked harder. But because something outside of me changed everything. You can do all the right things—and still stay stuck. We meditate, journal, reflect, and go deep. But some wounds live in the spaces we don’t know we’ve been hurt. That’s why effort alone isn’t always enough. Sometimes, healing needs a surprise. My wife and I prepped for a peaceful birth in 2019. Months of visualizing, planning, and...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read