LOVE LEADERS Matus Hanidziar Hey Reader, I’ve got something exciting in the works, and I could really use your help. I’m putting together a live masterclass series called: How to Attract (and Keep) the Secure Love You Deserve—Without Chasing, Abandoning Yourself, or Needing Therapy. I'm very excited about it... But before I finalize everything, I want to make sure I cover exactly what you need to hear. So, I’ve got a favor to ask: Could you share your #1 question about attracting the secure...
13 days ago • 1 min read
LOVE LEADERS Matus Hanidziar Years of pain dissolved in a single moment. Not because I worked harder. But because something outside of me changed everything. You can do all the right things—and still stay stuck. We meditate, journal, reflect, and go deep. But some wounds live in the spaces we don’t know we’ve been hurt. That’s why effort alone isn’t always enough. Sometimes, healing needs a surprise. My wife and I prepped for a peaceful birth in 2019. Months of visualizing, planning, and...
15 days ago • 1 min read
LOVE LEADERS MATUS HANIDZIAR What is thinking? Did you ever consider that question? Did you ever stop and ponder: "What you I do whenI "think"?" I didn't. Tony Robbins, a person I deeply admire, did. And here's what he found out: When you think, you answer questions. Without asking yourself questions, there would be no mental activity. Judging Labeling Describing Considering Contemplating... Call it whatever you want. All you do is answering questions. Here's something fascinating: If you ask...
16 days ago • 1 min read
LOVE LEADERS MATUS HANIDZIAR "4 years together. Sudden break up. She's been avoidant. I would like to rebuild it with her. Possible?" Someone asked me on my recent YouTube video. My answer? No, it's not possible to rebuild it. And I don't advise anyone to do that. Why? Look, I've been there myself. 2022, after 10 years of marriage and 15 years in relationship my wife comes and says: "I think we should take a break." I'll save you the sad story of terrible break up and the heartbreak that...
17 days ago • 1 min read
LIFE DESIGNERS MATUS HANIDZIAR Most people assume avoidants don’t want relationships.That they prefer to be alone.That they don’t feel as deeply as you do. Here’s the truth: They do want love. They just never learned how to feel safe in it. Imagine being a child who reaches for comfort—and gets coldness. Imagine being punished for needing anyone. Imagine learning, again and again: Closeness = pain. What would you do? You’d build walls. You’d stop reaching out. You’d tell yourself, “I’m better...
19 days ago • 1 min read
You’re finally connecting. Things feel warm, open, intimate. And then—They shut down. No warning. No explanation. Just silence. Most people assume this means disinterest, selfishness, or worse—emotional immaturity. But there’s something deeper going on here. Something that isn’t about you at all. Avoidants don’t pull away because they don’t care. They pull away because they do. Their nervous system sees connection as a threat. Their body doesn’t register closeness as comfort—it registers it...
20 days ago • 1 min read
Sometimes it seems like the past haunts you. Regrets of "what could've been" come again and again. Reminding you of missed opportunities. You might even feel like your mind is torturing you. "Why do you keep bringing this up?!?" you might want to say. Don't. There's nobody there listening. It's not an enemy trying to hurt you. It's your subconscious trying to help. To bring your attention to something that requires it. Because you feel it now. You know that now you can handle it. You sense...
24 days ago • 1 min read
7 days ago, I held my son Martin for the first time. A moment of pure joy. But 4 years ago? My wife and I had broken up. I thought I had lost everything. Here's how I healed, rebuilt my relationship, and became the man I needed to be. (and how you can do the same) 2021. Break up. I am trapped in shame about “where I ended up”. I am stuck in anxious patterns that pushed love away. I am consumed by regret & the flashbacks of my past mistakes. Again and again. Future feels bleak. The road back...
2 months ago • 1 min read
MANIFEST WITH HYPNOSIS MATUS HANIDZIAR Ever made a decision when you weren’t thinking clearly, like waking up with a headache or making an impulsive choice? Imagine living your entire life under that kind of fog, but it's not alcohol clouding your judgment—it's shame. Shame distorts how we see ourselves, shaping our every decision and action. It's like trying to make an important decision while intoxicated, and because it clouds our perception, we often don’t even realize it’s happening. If...
3 months ago • 1 min read